Massively offtopic: 'future financial dependants'

lost_in_thought

DonDaddyD wrote:

OOOooooo Who? How long you been with him? What's he like? What's he look like? Is he the one? I can't believe you're getting married!!! If you have a boy name him Laurence!

And you want to be the one who's 'kept'? Are you sure you're a bloke? The evidence to the contrary is building.... :P

DonDaddyD

rjsterry wrote:

@DDD: I think TWH's comment was making the point that you might think you'll know what you'll do with children, but when they're actually there in front of you, you might act differently. I'm fairly regularly re-assessing how I think we should bring up our little one. All thee above posts can be prefixed by 'this is what I think (so far)'.

Fair enough, I think its good to have some pre-established idea of what you are going to do. But ultiamtely its dependant on the child.

Each child is different (even monozygotic twins) so requires a different parenting techniques to raise them.

Still, having some predisposed idea helps.

rjsterry

Oh absolutely, it's just that in theory vs in practice bit. I'm a bit worried that despite my protestations to the contrary, I'll cave in at the first tantrum in a toy shop.

NGale

TommyEss wrote:

NGale wrote:

TommyEss wrote:

NGale wrote:

rjsterry wrote:

Having a family doesn't necessarily preclude matcatladydom. My mum is starting to show worrying first signs. We always had cats when I was growing up (despite me and one of my brothers having an allergy to cats :? - a very sneezy childhood). All the time I lived at home, the cats just got plain Whiskas out of a tin, with maybe a sprinkling of Go-Kat, but I have recently noticed on return visits that the cats are now fed these fancy individual sachet jobbies, and have acquired a range of cat 'toys'. Most worrying. Just waiting for the newspapers to start piling up (although I'm quite bad at that myself).

I perfer dogs personally, but with our jobs a dog wasn't viable, also I couldn't see this cat go without a home, it would have ended up at the Cats Protection or the RSPCA. So a cat bed, injections, cat litter and various toys later, young Nelson has made himself at home and an enemy out of Jake

Get a retired racing greyhound - all the fun of a dog - all the sleep of a cat!! Walk them for 20 minutes in the morning and they'll sleep the rest of the day!

Did actually look at getting a greyhound or whippet (I love those dogs), but with me working shifts and Jake on standby for deployment it wouldn't be fair to leave any dog for hours on end while I'm at work. The cat can at least make it's own way through the newly fitted cat flap.

You'd be surprised - ours have all been fine - they really do sleep nearly all day - as my mum discovered when she come home at lunch time to discover the dog bleary-eyed trying to get himself out of his basket!

10 hour shifts wouldn't be fair on any dog, at least with the cat and the cat flap he can come and go as he pleases. I would perfer a dog at some point, but perhaps in a few years time when Jake is more permantly land based or retired

Aidy

lost_in_thought wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

Being a 'weird cat lady' when I'm in my '80s is among my greatest fears.

Other fears include drowning, heights and octopi.

You better find a man!

What makes you think I haven't?

Do you realise how many hearts on here you've just broken?

lost_in_thought

Aidy wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

Being a 'weird cat lady' when I'm in my '80s is among my greatest fears.

Other fears include drowning, heights and octopi.

You better find a man!

What makes you think I haven't?

Do you realise how many hearts on here you've just broken?

Note that I haven't actually said I have, I merely ask what makes DDD think I haven't...

tailwindhome

DonDaddyD wrote:

Tailwindhome wrote:

Hehehehehehehehehehe


There's nothing funnier than people with no kids discussing how kids should be raised/ disciplined

Except I suppose being a grandparent watching your kids trying to raise theirs.

That must be fricking hilarious

So raising a child just cam to you the moment you held yours did it? :roll:

No.

I'm at it 8 years with 4 kids and I still haven't a clue. We haven't even entered the teenage years yet.


You should print this thread out, put it in an envelope and address it to DDD 2020.

You'll understand then.

One of the advantages of having kids earlier than your peers/social circle is watching them cope as all their wisdom evaporates

Cafewanda

TailWindHome wrote:

Hehehehehehehehehehe


There's nothing funnier than people with no kids discussing how kids should be raised/ disciplined

Except I suppose being a grandparent watching your kids trying to raise theirs.

That must be fricking hilarious

According to my best friend who's a grandmother. It's one of her greatest joys :twisted: Payback, she calls it

greg66_tri_v2.0

Feck me, is this thread still going?

DDD, there's a bloke down my way whose missus wasn't even preggers when this thread started. Their kid's at primary school now.

Get going, man!

greg66_tri_v2.0

Aidy wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

Being a 'weird cat lady' when I'm in my '80s is among my greatest fears.

Other fears include drowning, heights and octopi.

You better find a man!

What makes you think I haven't?

Do you realise how many hearts on here you've just broken?

Oh yeah. Dave the Trucker can be a cruel mistress sometimes.

fenboy369

Bringing up kids... Agree a line in the sand with the wife and stick to it. Back each other up and never, never show weakness. They will exploit it. If you think MOSSAD are bad then wait for kids. The combination of sleep deprevation. financial sanctions and emotional torture they can and will heap upon you will make MOSSAD's finest look like Rod, Jane and Freddy. The beach must be held at all costs my friend, do not waver...

DonDaddyD

Greg66 wrote:

Feck me, is this thread still going?

DDD, there's a bloke down my way whose missus wasn't even preggers when this thread started. Their kid's at primary school now.

Get going, man!

Stop putting pressure on me, I can't perform under pressure!

Its what I tell Ms DDD anyway...

rjsterry

fenboy369 wrote:

Bringing up kids... Agree a line in the sand with the wife and stick to it. Back each other up and never, never show weakness. They will exploit it. If you think MOSSAD are bad then wait for kids. The combination of sleep deprevation. financial sanctions and emotional torture they can and will heap upon you will make MOSSAD's finest look like Rod, Jane and Freddy. The beach must be held at all costs my friend, do not waver...

Indeed. Our 10 month old seems to have already worked out the 'Mummy says no, Hmm, let's get a second opinion form Daddy' routine before she can walk or speak. Very worrying.

always_tyred

lost_in_thought wrote:

Aidy wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

lost_in_thought wrote:

Being a 'weird cat lady' when I'm in my '80s is among my greatest fears.

Other fears include drowning, heights and octopi.

You better find a man!

What makes you think I haven't?

Do you realise how many hearts on here you've just broken?

Note that I haven't actually said I have, I merely ask what makes DDD think I haven't...

The fact that you are lamenting the prospect of being a strange single cat lady age 80?

You must just intimidate men with your large (financial) assets.

spen666

fenboy369 wrote:

Bringing up kids... Agree a line in the sand with the wife and stick to it. Back each other up and never, never show weakness. They will exploit it. If you think MOSSAD are bad then wait for kids. The combination of sleep deprevation. financial sanctions and emotional torture they can and will heap upon you will make MOSSAD's finest look like Rod, Jane and Freddy. The beach must be held at all costs my friend, do not waver...

+1

Fenboy speaks from experience of being a parent - quite obviously

biondino

Me and Mrs Biondino (haha I've never called her that before) are getting a whippet!

Cafewanda wrote:

This thread should be printed off by all fathers and shown to their sons at puberty and when they feel they've met 'the one'. Might be more effective than condoms

Less comfortable, though. Ouch.

el_presidente wrote:

My boy is 1 next weekend, I don't care how much he costs in time & money, he is a BARGAIN.

I've just read the whole thread and this is far and away the best post

NGale

as of today, we officially have Jakes mother badgering us as to when we're getting married and having kids. It seems living together is not good enough :shock: :shock:

mtb-idle

I'm happily married and have two boys, the eldest is 19, just finished first year of uni and the youngest is 17.

They are hard, hard work for oooh, the first ten years and then it gets a bit easier.

The lovely Mrs Idle gave up full time work after the secondwas born and is still in part time work earning peanuts. Money is fine now even paying for uni but was tough when they were young as i was lower down the salary scale then.

One of the best bits is getting to do all you wanted/buy all the toys you wanted as a child (with boys for me anyway).

Another great bit is that you get to do stuff like we ar ein four weeks when the eldest is coming with me to Les Arcs for some DH'ing on the MTB's. Here he is last time we went back in 2007



Proud dad moment

NGale

do cats county as 'financial dependents'? Mine has just cost me a small fortune for vacinations and to have his bits sorted

linsen

biondino wrote:

Me and Mrs Biondino (haha I've never called her that before) are getting a whippet!

Cafewanda wrote:

This thread should be printed off by all fathers and shown to their sons at puberty and when they feel they've met 'the one'. Might be more effective than condoms

Less comfortable, though. Ouch.

el_presidente wrote:

My boy is 1 next weekend, I don't care how much he costs in time & money, he is a BARGAIN.

I've just read the whole thread and this is far and away the best post

+100 on that last bit.

Mrs. Biondino - hahahahahahahahaha

NGale

linsen wrote:

biondino wrote:

Me and Mrs Biondino (haha I've never called her that before) are getting a whippet!

Cafewanda wrote:

This thread should be printed off by all fathers and shown to their sons at puberty and when they feel they've met 'the one'. Might be more effective than condoms

Less comfortable, though. Ouch.

el_presidente wrote:

My boy is 1 next weekend, I don't care how much he costs in time & money, he is a BARGAIN.

I've just read the whole thread and this is far and away the best post

+100 on that last bit.

Mrs. Biondino - hahahahahahahahaha

It;s the fact there's a Mrs B :roll:

rolf_f

So anyway, how did DDDs kids turn out?

linsen

NGale wrote:

linsen wrote:

biondino wrote:

Me and Mrs Biondino (haha I've never called her that before) are getting a whippet!

Cafewanda wrote:

This thread should be printed off by all fathers and shown to their sons at puberty and when they feel they've met 'the one'. Might be more effective than condoms

Less comfortable, though. Ouch.

el_presidente wrote:

My boy is 1 next weekend, I don't care how much he costs in time & money, he is a BARGAIN.

I've just read the whole thread and this is far and away the best post

+100 on that last bit.

Mrs. Biondino - hahahahahahahahaha

It;s the fact there's a Mrs B :roll:

Not at all. It's the fact that I know her...

NGale

linsen wrote:

NGale wrote:

linsen wrote:

biondino wrote:

Me and Mrs Biondino (haha I've never called her that before) are getting a whippet!

Cafewanda wrote:

This thread should be printed off by all fathers and shown to their sons at puberty and when they feel they've met 'the one'. Might be more effective than condoms

Less comfortable, though. Ouch.

el_presidente wrote:

My boy is 1 next weekend, I don't care how much he costs in time & money, he is a BARGAIN.

I've just read the whole thread and this is far and away the best post

+100 on that last bit.

Mrs. Biondino - hahahahahahahahaha

It;s the fact there's a Mrs B :roll:

Not at all. It's the fact that I know her...

she must have the patience of a saint...to live with him that is :roll:

redvee

This might have been covered already but it's late and I want some duvet time. The cost per year of raising a child to 21 can stop you buying over £200k bits of bike :shock: :shock: http://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2010/fe ... -inflation

linsen

redvee wrote:

This might have been covered already but it's late and I want some duvet time. The cost per year of raising a child to 21 can stop you buying over £200k bits of bike :shock: :shock: http://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2010/fe ... -inflation

But a large part of that cost is living an a bigger house, whcih has its own set of benefits unreleated to the fact you have children.

@NGale - both Mr and Mrs Biondino are utterly delightful

NGale

linsen wrote:

redvee wrote:

This might have been covered already but it's late and I want some duvet time. The cost per year of raising a child to 21 can stop you buying over £200k bits of bike :shock: :shock: http://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2010/fe ... -inflation

But a large part of that cost is living an a bigger house, whcih has its own set of benefits unreleated to the fact you have children.

@NGale - both Mr and Mrs Biondino are utterly delightful

I don't doubt it