MTBers who don't actually go biking - rubbish men / dating!

miss notax

Ok chaps - advice needed (and there's a reason it here and not in the Crudcatcher )!

Why are there NO MEN on dating websites who actually seem to go mountain biking or at least seem to like a girlie who does (and who knows a bit about it)?! I keep on chatting to blokes who are apparently into the hobby, but then realise what they mean is that they have a bike in the shed they once rode to the pub.... Surely there must be some blokes out there who would quite like to meet a nice mountain biking lady who ticks all the usual boxes but can also ride pretty well and hold a conversation about 26 vs 29er's etc etc?!!

The dates I have been on I seem to be regarded as some sort of freak - 'you're riding BOTH days at the weekend?' :shock: Well, in the absense of anything better to do, yes :oops: Why is all this regarded as weird which makes me some kind of female lunatic?!!!

Any why put something as your hobby when it clearly isn't (and yo have no interest in meeting anyone who also enjoys the same thing)?!

Any insight into this non-existant male logic appreciated..... *sigh*

supersonic

People put things down on dating websites to attract more attention, even if they do very little of it. If you are going to limit yourself to just MTbers I think you are going to be waiting a long, long time. Were none of these people actually nice people?

RevellRider

SS, I think the problem is that they considered Miss Notax a freak for riding both days at the weekend

thistle_

Maybe they're already taken or aren't looking because they don't want to have to get passes to go out at the weekend.

Is there a local club you could join? You might have more success there, and if nothing else meet some new mates.

miss notax

SS - yes, lots of nice people but no-one I would want to see again. Not limiting myself to MTBers, but just as if someone listed another hobby of mine I would chat to them about it, and in this instance I think I am coming across as a bit of a weirdo :roll:

thistle (MBMW) - i'm on a dating site so hopefully all the chaps aren't taken (!), otherwise the odds are really stacked against me I'm already a member of loads of clubs etc etc - all the usual ways of meeting people (and I have loads of lovely biking buddies).

It would just be nice to meet someone who shared the hobby - or if they didn't, appreciated that it was a passion of mine and thought it was kind of cool (as opposed to thinking i'm a loon!) 8) I always like people who have a bit of passion and drive but maybe that doesn't translate well into a girl who spends alot of time riding through mud (and the remaining time cleaning it off)

bartimaeus

It's the difference between 'advertising' and reality.

miss notax

Ironically I work in advertising - you would have thought I might have grasped this by now

UH DH

I am surprised at all of you. The quality of this place has been going right down since I last visited.

6 responses in and nobody has done the classic A/S/L yet.

Terrible.

Chunkers1980

It's not cc.

welshkev

my brother is single at the minute, he posts in here at times. he has a bike, rides it occasionally, but he's really good at ferrying me and my bike around as he has roof bars

maybe i should set you guys up

ol\'gregg

welshkev wrote:

my brother is single at the minute, he posts in here at times. he has a bike, rides it occasionally, but he's really good at ferrying me and my bike around as he has roof bars

maybe i should set you guys up

Oi stop pimping me out!! I'm also good at fixing bikes.
On a more serious note..
I've been single for 5 months now after a 5 year relationship and the whole dating again thing freaks me out. I have thought about dating websites but my interests are cars, tattoos, films, drawing and bikes (form and orderly queue ladies) I have no idea where to start or even what i'm looking for. Also I had to move back in with my parents after the break up as the house i was sharing with my ex is owned by her parents and i was skint but try telling someone you live at home and the conversation seems to come to an abrubt end and trying to explain it makes it worse apparently

miss notax

Good luck

Dating is monumentally cr@p - I like meeting new people but it's all the 'do this / don't do that' that surrounds it that's hard work! I'm sure it's trickier now compared to when I was younger too (or maybe that's just because I can't remember previously!) :roll:

ol\'gregg

miss notax wrote:

Good luck

Dating is monumentally cr@p - I like meeting new people but it's all the 'do this / don't do that' that surrounds it that's hard work! I'm sure it's trickier now compared to when I was younger too (or maybe that's just because I can't remember previously!) :roll:

Yeah i'm sure when i was in my 20's i could just talk random crap on a night out and that somehow worked. Now i'm worried that maybe how i was whilst in my last relationship is not 'normal' and i am now seen as some kind of freak.

Ahh to be young again and not have to worry about such crap.

Giraffoto

Accidental post

stubs

My vast tiny experience of the dating scene has put me off for life. The women I met either brought wedding dress catalogues and baby name books to the first date. Or got nastily pissed and ranted on about how all men are bastards and how they wish they had cut their exes balls off with a rusty knife.

One date I went on, after about an hour during which the woman drank a whole bottle of red with a couple of voddie chasers I was seriously thinking about climbing out the window of the gents and doing a runner. Fortunately after the 2nd bottle with voddie chasers she went quiet and I was able to pour her into a cab give the driver £40 and ask him to make sure she got in her house.

Thank God for internet porn and Beyonce videos.

welshkev

stubs wrote:

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One date I went on, after about an hour during which the woman drank a whole bottle of red with a couple of voddie chasers I was seriously thinking about climbing out the window of the gents and doing a runner. .

i think i would've just gone. i cba with people like that, you've got more resolve than me

mrmonkfinger

miss notax wrote:

conversation about 26 vs 29er's

I see your mistake...


I have this hunch that 'dating' and the 'dating scene' are your root problem. Lots of dross to sift through.

mrmonkfinger

ol\'gregg wrote:

miss notax wrote:

Good luck

Dating is monumentally cr@p - I like meeting new people but it's all the 'do this / don't do that' that surrounds it that's hard work! I'm sure it's trickier now compared to when I was younger too (or maybe that's just because I can't remember previously!) :roll:

Yeah i'm sure when i was in my 20's i could just talk random crap on a night out and that somehow worked. Now i'm worried that maybe how i was whilst in my last relationship is not 'normal' and i am now seen as some kind of freak.

Ahh to be young again and not have to worry about such crap.

See look, you're already getting on like a house on fire.

Hurrah for BR!

welshkev

mrmonkfinger wrote:

ol\'gregg wrote:

miss notax wrote:

Good luck

Dating is monumentally cr@p - I like meeting new people but it's all the 'do this / don't do that' that surrounds it that's hard work! I'm sure it's trickier now compared to when I was younger too (or maybe that's just because I can't remember previously!) :roll:

Yeah i'm sure when i was in my 20's i could just talk random crap on a night out and that somehow worked. Now i'm worried that maybe how i was whilst in my last relationship is not 'normal' and i am now seen as some kind of freak.

Ahh to be young again and not have to worry about such crap.

See look, you're already getting on like a house on fire.

Hurrah for BR!

andy, meet sarah. sarah, meet andy

miss notax

Another date lined up for tomorrow, so perhaps i'll try and be more normal on this one and see what happens

bartimaeus

miss notax wrote:

i'll try and be more normal on this one and see what happens

No point in pretending to be someone you're not ... it just makes things more awkward down the line. Or is this a hook-em-and-then-reel-em-in approach?

EDIT... mind you, I would not take advice from me - what do I know?

welshkev

miss notax wrote:

Another date lined up for tomorrow, so perhaps i'll try and be more normal on this one and see what happens

tell them you only ride 1 day on the weekend?

but on amore serious not. there's no point compromising for the sake of it just to get a bf/gf. as sadi above, it only makes things awkward once the honeymoon period has worn off.

The Rookie

miss notax wrote:

Why are there NO MEN on dating websites who actually seem to go mountain biking

Obvious really, we are all irresistable and hence only available for a few days at a time, if at all!

Seriously though, don't try and be someone your not, it's Ok to tone stuff down a bit during the 'getting to know you' phase, but long term it never works, at least look for someone who is sporty (as opposed to a watching couch potato) as they are more likely to share an interest in 'excercise type stuff'.

Best of luck anyway.

RevellRider

I don't think you have to find someone sporty to be a match, just somebody that has a passion for what they do. It was easier for my girlfriend to relate to what I did when we first started dating as she has a big passion for music. She could see that what drove me to go out on a cold winters morning was the same desire that drove her to learn the bass guitar or put on a gig for local bands

And I echo The Beginners statement of Good Luck

supersonic

I think sometimes you can try too hard: all these dates lined up, I'd never personally date anyone who was on a dating website! Of course I'd have to be one to start to know.. unless I met someone randomly who mentioned it. Just seems to me is more of a trail/conveyer belt type of thing and desperation.

I prefer to let things just run naturally, go out as normal, and let things happen.

cooldad

Well if you get desperate, I'm single, cheap, have all my own limbs, low standards and expectations, and won't be offended if you want to sleep with me on the first date.
I'll even let you make bacons in the morning.
Perfect or what?

tlw1

Just get a top made up with

'if you think this is dirty, wait till I get you home' along with your phone number

jobs a carrot

tlw1

cooldad wrote:

Well if you get desperate, I'm single, cheap, have all my own limbs, low standards and expectations, and won't be offended if you want to sleep with me on the first date.
I'll even let you make bacons in the morning.
Perfect or what?

is this aimed at Andy?

miss notax

supersonic wrote:

Just seems to me is more of a trail/conveyer belt type of thing and desperation.

I prefer to let things just run naturally, go out as normal, and let things happen.

Oooh - unsurprisingly I strongly disagree with this!

I am a HUGE believer that everyone is responsible for their own happiness; if you don't like something - change it, if you want to do something - do it. I can't stand apathy. Obviously some people ARE clearly desperate (!), but for the rest I see nothing wrong with stacking the odds in your favour. I'm happy being single and I have great friends blah blah, but I would like to meet someone nice to settle down with, so what's wrong with doing what I can to make it happen...?

I'm probably going off on a tangent here, but there are SOOO many people who would like to 'change their life' in some way / move house / ride the Mega / sail across the Atlantic etc etc and a lot of them will NEVER get around to trying / doing it. Just bloody well do it!! I don't think there's anything wrong with trying stuff and it not working out, but it's a crying shame to regret not giving stuff a go....

Anyway, I put stacking the odds of meeting someone nice in with all this. I'm not desperate, I am happy as I am, I just want to be proactive about it rather than sitting on my @rse wondering why it never happens for me. Maybe i'll meet someone / maybe I won't but at least i'm giving it a go

Here endeth the Miss Notax guide to life It's too short to sit around 'I wish'ing...

RevellRider

I personally don't understand the stigma around dating sites. As Miss Notax says, it's staking the odds in your favour. The more chances you get to meet people, the more chances you have to meet someone you really like. Yes, there are some people on them that are only looking for one thing, but like in life you have to sort through the chaff.

What's different from meeting someone in a bar/club? Apart from you get to work on your opening line several times until you have it perfect

Briggo

I'm game, just don't tell the wife ok.