donDADDYd

notsoblue

Congrats DDD!

spasypaddy

impossible for you to be gay

congrats btw on both accounts

Bassjunkieuk

Can't believe I of all people missed this thread....

!!!!!WELL DONE!!!!!

Having kids isn't as bad as everyone makes out, just have faith in your wonderful missus and she'll be fine. The human body can do some amazing things, after all it's worked perfectly well for the last few thousand years ;-)

As for when it arrives, every moment will be special and watching them grow up and develop is probably the most amazing and rewarding thing that you can experience....

As for the marriage part there are a couple of important words you need to learn "yes" & "dear". With those 2 words you'll get through just about anything :-D

Cafewanda

@ BJUK.

Congrats DDD.

Agent57

Great news, DDD. Congratulations on both counts, man.

jimmypippa

congrats

Those jokes about sleepless nights are true...

paulintheforest

Bassjunkieuk wrote:

As for the marriage part there are a couple of important words you need to learn "yes" & "dear". With those 2 words you'll get through just about anything :-D

So that's where I've been going wrong!

Congrats as well, but make the most of sleep and being able to go somewhere at the drop of a hat. Wouldn't change a thing about having kids but life certainly does change.

Clever Pun

Congratulations fella

mtb-idle

many congrats D to the Double-Dee.

Your life is about to be turned upside down but it's worth it.

My two boys are 20 & 18. Been to the Alps twice with the eldest one MTB'ing and all three of us are going the Alps again in two weeks on our road bikes to follow the tour.

Flyingbogey

Congrats, Fun times ahead indeed. The best days of my life thus far all involve my 16 month old son. My only advice would be to disable google when you first get home with them. Stuff on there will freak you out not to mention putting things like "Panting Baby" in the search bar! lucky not to have operation ore knocking on my door!

veronese68

Congratulations. I agree with what most people have already said.
For EKE I had to ask the prospective Mother in Law as EPO's Dad walked out when she was 5. The answer was "no!", I didn't know what to say. Fortunately she then burst out laughing and said "yes". Phew.

DonDaddyD

Thanks for the kind words.

And that whole rant about blokes getting no support, I guess that was mostly carthartic for me. 4.30am I'm fully awake kinda demostrates where I am in terms of restless, nervous and anxious energy.

Setting aside thoughts on how to be a good Dad, I'm currenty obsessed with being the provider. I've recalculated the 'family finance' on a daily basis. My goal is to have near to or no credit (credit card - don't have one, loans - ending nearly a year early or overdraft - grumble but incredibly low interest) that I owe, with the exception of, possibly, a very small 1-2yr car finance (haven't decided) and a mortgage. I get irritated by my friends who harp on about having a £10,000 credit card limit as though its a statement of wealth, yet do not have the means to pay it off entirely...

One thing I could not possibly conceive of, is not asking her Dad for her hand in marriage. - And that's how I said it.

"I was wondering, sir, if I could have your daughters hand in marriage". Or words to that effect.

I wasn't going to do it until her Father met mine, we settled on our mothers meeting. (long story). But when all parties are well intentioned (i.e. no family issues) I think these things should be done with a measure of (in our case British) tradition.

If her Dad said no, then there would likely be a Father-daughter issue or a Father-boyfriend issue. If that were the case I'd probably say "I would like to marry your daughter" and/or "I'm planning on asking her". As oppose to out right asking permission.

tailwindhome

Dude, you need to start banking some sleep.

The Rookie

Just spotted this thread, congrats on both events to you DDD.

RE Finanaces, if you learn to do your own bike maintenance and fettling you'll save a wedge you can then use on upgrades......and if its a boy you can later feel all manly when you teach him your hard learnt skills - or heck a girl who likes bikes of course (sorry LiT and my daughter!)

Simon

essex-commuter

I've only just spotted this thread too.

Congratulations fella, enjoy all that is ahead!

el_presidente

DonDaddyD wrote:

...
One thing I could not possibly conceive of, is not asking her Dad for her hand in marriage. - And that's how I said it.

"I was wondering, sir, if I could have your daughters hand in marriage". Or words to that effect.

I wasn't going to do it until her Father met mine, we settled on our mothers meeting. (long story). But when all parties are well intentioned (i.e. no family issues) I think these things should be done with a measure of (in our case British) tradition.
...

My wife would have been furious if I'd asked her Dad. She's the one getting married , it's her decision and none of her Dad's business is the way she sees it and for what it's worth I agree with her. Stupid outdated tradition.

PS congratulations.

Zachariah

Well done! Old gag from Spitting Image: "I now pronounce you man and wife. You may now kiss...Goodbye to all your money."

But seriously, this is great news for you and yours, the bambini will be a joy however it turns out. I have a 6 year-old and a 1.5 year-old and still get a bit of riding done. And also get on the bike sometimes too.

Ian.B

Congratulations on both counts, DDD!
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King Donut

Congratulations DDD!

Nothing changed when I got married. Little one born last November was a bigger difference. But we still do most of the things we did before, just with a little more planning.

We did some hypnobirthing sessions with a local therapist. I found it very inclusive of my role, and it helped my wife no ends - very relaxed, natural birth that was over within an hour of us arriving at hospital.

hmbadger

SimonAH wrote:

Or just club her and drag her into the bushes by the hair? Truth is that unless you're really badly mis-reading the situation you're asking because you know the answer is yes, and by asking (permission to ask) you are making the father know that you respect him and by extension his daughter. Which makes him feel good.

What a load of drivel! What century do you live in? Tell me, where does the mother fit into this?

Aside from that, congrats to DDD! Marriage is great. Parenthood is difficult, very difficult in some cases. Try not to overthink it - don;t sweat the small stuff.

bdave262000

Gameover

Confusedboy

Excellent news, D-dude, I am very happy for you.

Of course blokes need support. Producing a child requires a skilled part of the operation and someone to do the labouring for 9 months; the skilled worker never gets the recognition he deserves.....(retreats to bunker for a very long time).....

Seriously, best wishes to you both+1.

Greg T

Dcubed!

Congratulations. It's a life changing thing . . . .

Good luck.

bearfraser

Nice One !!!!!!!!, no more BikePorn 4U

TheStone

el_presidente wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

...
One thing I could not possibly conceive of, is not asking her Dad for her hand in marriage. - And that's how I said it.

"I was wondering, sir, if I could have your daughters hand in marriage". Or words to that effect.

I wasn't going to do it until her Father met mine, we settled on our mothers meeting. (long story). But when all parties are well intentioned (i.e. no family issues) I think these things should be done with a measure of (in our case British) tradition.
...

My wife would have been furious if I'd asked her Dad. She's the one getting married , it's her decision and none of her Dad's business is the way she sees it and for what it's worth I agree with her. Stupid outdated tradition.

PS congratulations.

I know of someone who asked the dad and the dad laughed at him,

Even in the father's speech at the wedding he laughed again at how pathetic it was of a bloke in the 2000s to be asking permission off the old fella.

.... I kinda agree.

Good luck.

will3

Nice one.
Did you ask her dad before or after he found out she was "in the family way" (as my neighbour rather quaintly put it)?

I hope you enjoy it as much as I have, but you will be tired, very tired! As for not being able to spend money on your bike - I still argue that since it's my way of getting to work, I can spend a bit on it. Its still way cheaper than running another car would be.

el_presidente

TheStone wrote:

el_presidente wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

...
One thing I could not possibly conceive of, is not asking her Dad for her hand in marriage. - And that's how I said it.

"I was wondering, sir, if I could have your daughters hand in marriage". Or words to that effect.

I wasn't going to do it until her Father met mine, we settled on our mothers meeting. (long story). But when all parties are well intentioned (i.e. no family issues) I think these things should be done with a measure of (in our case British) tradition.
...

My wife would have been furious if I'd asked her Dad. She's the one getting married , it's her decision and none of her Dad's business is the way she sees it and for what it's worth I agree with her. Stupid outdated tradition.

PS congratulations.

I know of someone who asked the dad and the dad laughed at him,

Even in the father's speech at the wedding he laughed again at how pathetic it was of a bloke in the 2000s to be asking permission off the old fella.

.... I kinda agree.

Good luck.

haha superb. I will be taking tis approach with my daughter

ndru

Congrats. About your doubts and fears MTFU!

will3

ndru wrote:

Congrats. About your doubts and fears MTFU!

This too.
When the time comes you will know what to do, trust me.

but:

when you're tired as a very tired thing and holding a screaming baby etc , listen to those you trust giving advice or help.
It's amazing how something so small can turn apparently senisible and inteligent adults into gibbering wrecks.

EKE_38BPM

will3 wrote:

It's amazing how something so small can turn apparently senisible and inteligent adults into gibbering wrecks.

Is that some sort of back-handed compliment about DDD's skillz in the sack?