Ditching a girlfriend?

cunning-stunt

Lets hear your answers to this one fellas.

A month or two ago I hooked up with a bird on another forum.
I'm 29,she's 43 and married,but she travelled 200 miles to come see me for a few days and the usual happened etc etc

After that,she became really clingy,phoning me up to 12 times a day,texting non stop,emailing me,sending me PMs on the other forum etc.

Because of this,I ended up ditching her last thursday morning at 2-30am...at 6-30am she was knocking my door having driven through the night to come find out why :shock:

Seeing as she was here I kinda changed my mind and said the right stuff to get her kit off - as you do. But now I'm back in the same boat I was last week.
I do like her a lot,but I don't think we have any sort of future,and want to end things..

We've only met twice and she's talking about the future,on about buying a house down here,talking about changing or quitting her job so we have the same time off together,buying me stuff for my flat...

I want to get rid of her,but I don't want to hurt her more than is necessary,and I certainly don't want her turning up here with a carving knife or gun.

I started all this and it's my own fault and I know it,so please refrain from the 'it's your fault' type answers,and I'm mature enough not to tell her 'sling your hook'.

Serious replies welcomed - what would you do to get out of this?

mozzle

Sorry pal but that is p1ss funny/!!!!
Sounds like the sort of situation I usually find myself in!
I suppose one way to go about it is change your phone number, e-mail address and try to move house quickly.
Anyway good luck and keep us posted.

cunning-stunt

mozzle wrote:

Sorry pal but that is p1ss funny/!!!!
I suppose one way to go about it is change your phone number, e-mail address and try to move house quickly.

I know it's funny from someone else's point of view - truth be told,if it was a mate I'd be in stitches

I've considered changing everything and moving,and a mate even suggested faking my own death - which I'm actually considering

supersonic

And you'd think they'd be more mature at that age. Shame on her. But cool, you have a stalker!

chrisjsmith

I had a couple of crazy ones like that. I gave in after a while on the last one and we've been happily married for 5 years now and have 2 children

The one previous one to that didn't get the hint (after 30 odd attempts). She was addicted to the regular cash flow I think and didn't want to let go. So I quit my job and did a load of cash in hand so I had no money. She soon got bored (well after about a month) and copped off with some Scottish soldier. Granted I was on about £5k a month in hush hush work but she didn't know as it was all rolled up in bundles and bags inside the washing machine switchgear.

Find the weak spot and exploit. It's your damn life!

Else it's the fuzz I'm afraid. Restraining order!

supersonic

"Find the weak spot and exploit. It's your damn life!"

Tell her you have just found out you have herpes.

FatBlokeFromFelixstowe

Move

scotttomo

Hidin money inside a washin machine now thats amazin! Just tell her she's driven you to bat for the other side and start wearin leather waistcoats when she knocks sonic might lend you his . Oh and change your name to tarquin

RichMTB

This will be of absolutely no use to anyone but IMHO its well funny.

I've got a mate who's ex girlfriend has some slight mental problems, the upshot of which is that she has difficulty with her memory. She forgets that she is his EX girlfriend and keeps turning up at his house at random intervals talking about stuff that happened two years ago as if it was last week.

My mate does nothing tostop this and actually still goes out with her occasionally to humour her, how weird is that?

scotttomo

Thats kin well funny but aint they all got mental problems? . No offense ladies if your readin this :oops:

cunning-stunt

Anyone got a decent answer/post/pisstake?

I've been stalked before,and this is exactly the way it started out!

clas

On a serious note
go for the lot
say you are as one other poster put it "batting for the other side" say you have been given aids by your boyfreind and she might have it...

Ok thats a high risk strategy. my favourite is this.
Get her kit off take phots post them on the internet then tell her.
If she doesnt dump you then. well you could always sell the phots and make a nice little sideline!

another one ask her if your mate can go twos up with her!

in short make yourself out to be the saddest sickest perv that has ever graced this planet (after me of course)

ddoogie

I'd go with the herpes option.

But seriously, you need to crack down on the situation. Stop being a push over and tell it to her straight. Don't give any other options other than the door!

BlackSpur

supersonic wrote:

Tell her you have just found out you have herpes.

It would be rather ironic if she turned around and said "That's OK, I've had it for 2 years already"

milkywhite

Dude, just get a back bone, and be firm with her. If she senses weakness in your resolve she'll try her luck and attempt to get you to change your mind...like the time she turned up on your door step...

at 6-30am she was knocking my door having driven through the night to come find out why Shocked

Seeing as she was here I kinda changed my mind and said the right stuff to get her kit off

That was exactly what she hoped would happen, and you fell for it.

You'll hurt her. Nothing is gonna change that. It's better to do it now than 6 months down the line.

cunning-stunt

Done it!

Took a 2 hour phone call (with non stop tears on her part),but I kept my resolve and didn't change my mind despite her trying.

Feel like a right git now,but better than stringing her along :oops:

Now it just remains to be seen whether she turns up tomorrow :shock:

milkywhite

Well done that man!

Now close your curtains, keep the lights off and pray!

cunning-stunt

She just sent me a text,it doesn't sound like she's gonna turn up here so I guess I'm in the clear.
Now I presume I just cut down the contact and she'll go away..

I always pick the stalkers/psychopaths...the last one ended up driving past my flat 20 or 30 times a day.The only way I got rid of her was changing my number,and because she got the sack at work

supersonic

Well, if she turns up, give her another boning, then dump her again! ;-)

mozzle

If she does happen to turn up on your door step you've gotta have the balls to turn her away and not have one final night of passion
Seriously though, well done for breaking that girls heart

cunning-stunt

mozzle wrote:

Seriously though, well done for breaking that girls heart

I actually feel terrible about it,but just wasn't happy

mozzle

Give it a week or two and you'll start missing the attention! You'll start of texting her and before you know it your right back in this mess

cunning-stunt

No way!
That's something I don't want to do is string her along.

I'm not going near another woman again...well,at least until Christmas anyway.
Ok then,next week maybe..

mozzle

Next girl you meet, before you get it on with her sit her down and ask her a few questions...
Are you a nutter?
Will you start to stalk me if/when we split up?
If the answers are NO, then game on

milkywhite

I always pick the stalkers/psychopaths...the last one ended up driving past my flat 20 or 30 times a day.The only way I got rid of her was changing my number

Mate, I know what you're talking about.

I've had one girlfriend try to beat the sh*t out of me for no reason whatsoever after a night out. Another one smacked me with the house phone, and then tried to glass me. Plus, I've had more than my fair share of weird, needy women who think you've forgotten about them because you haven't texted for 12 hours.

milkywhite

By the way, where are the pictures? We need, as a forum, to decide whether you were right to dump her.

supersonic

"Plus, I've had more than my fair share of weird, needy women who think you've forgotten about them because you haven't texted for 12 hours."

Thats ALL women.

milkywhite

Thats ALL women.

Amen brother.

Chauvinists of the world unite!

supersonic

I just chain them to the sink. Then they can see me every half hour as I get a beer from the fridge.

cunning-stunt

milkywhite wrote:

who think you've forgotten about them because you haven't texted for 12 hours.

Try 20 minutes :shock:
Sleep was my only escape!

I did a lot of sleeping..

I'm not going to post a picture of her,that wouldn't be fair to her,or very nice.

chrisjsmith

My wife phones my work if I don't reply to a text in half an hour. It's pretty damn embarrasing when you're leading a team meeting with about 20 people in it - really takes the authority away.

The worst thing is when I'm cycling. I have a motorola hands free bluetooth dongle thing that bleeps every time I get a text. I have to get off every 10 minutes to tell her i'm still alive and haven't been killed by cars.