tuesday has no more reality than heliotrope

sungod

'ning

ride far, wind permitting as yesterday was howling, cafes, bask

lincolndave

Morning, brighter start today, the garden needs some attention after yesterday’s rain / hail storms, cycling later , works getting in the way again.
Have a good day

thistle_

Morning

Wet start again, but promising nice weather later.
WFH as usual, and finally a haircut too.

tlw1

Week 2 of the holiday in the people’s republic of Shropshire and after yesterday’s fun today is dealing with family and their crystal clear money grab from MIL

pinno

Mum left me the house.
Brother was fine about it.
Sister was so delighted that I thought she was going to have an attempt on my life.

Dull here. Was going to pedal but the rain is not relenting.
We're either getting frazzled or drowned.

darkhairedlord

Morning all,
MIL has similar problems after looking after her parents for 10 years. They left the lot to there other daughter.

Stevo_666

Seems to be a very common problem. At times there are advantages to being an only child - if I ever had to argue about dealing with aged parents I had to talk to myself and Strifeys old dear had nothing to argue over by time she'd been in a care home for over a decade.

More work today but not too busy as lots of people on holiday. Will get my kit sorted later for tomorrows mtb jaunt down in deepest darkest Kent.

step83

Morning, bright but cloudy here, odd combo.

Why do family deaths bring out the worst in people?

Not mentioned it on here but my father passed away middle of last month, only found out last week. Sisters, half brother and his widow appear to be keeping it hush hush as he had some wealth. I only found out accidentally when I got asked if I was OK after the news I'd (not) had.
Not expecting to see anything from his estate they appear to have divvied it all up between themselves an I've not spoken to him in 20+ years. Couldn't stand the man hes the reason I have several scars but maintained he never touched me.

Anyway yes, people generally turn into money grabbers when things like this occur.

Also, don't have Fleetwood Mac, Big Love playing the background, namely the end section when on a conference call. It sounds pornographic, that was slightly awkward!

thistle_

step83 said:

Also, don't have Fleetwood Mac, Big Love playing the background, namely the end section when on a conference call. It sounds pornographic, that was slightly awkward!

Just blame it on the neighbours.

Stevo_666

step83 said:

Morning, bright but cloudy here, odd combo.

Why do family deaths bring out the worst in people?

Not mentioned it on here but my father passed away middle of last month, only found out last week. Sisters, half brother and his widow appear to be keeping it hush hush as he had some wealth. I only found out accidentally when I got asked if I was OK after the news I'd (not) had.
Not expecting to see anything from his estate they appear to have divvied it all up between themselves an I've not spoken to him in 20+ years. Couldn't stand the man hes the reason I have several scars but maintained he never touched me.

Anyway yes, people generally turn into money grabbers when things like this occur.

Also, don't have Fleetwood Mac, Big Love playing the background, namely the end section when on a conference call. It sounds pornographic, that was slightly awkward!

That's really **** Step, but if you don't like any of them and they're being money grabbing turds it might not hurt to contest the will.

homers_double

Kind of defeats the objective of someone saying "I don't want "X" to get a penny" in their will.

pinno

homers_double said:

Kind of defeats the objective of someone saying "I don't want "X" to get a penny" in their will.

If he was a b4stard of a father then does it matter what his last wishes were?
Not leaving your own son something...

I'm in Steps shoes. My fathers Will was going to be split equally regardless of what was written on it.

step83

Stevo_666 said:

step83 said:

Morning, bright but cloudy here, odd combo.

Why do family deaths bring out the worst in people?

Not mentioned it on here but my father passed away middle of last month, only found out last week. Sisters, half brother and his widow appear to be keeping it hush hush as he had some wealth. I only found out accidentally when I got asked if I was OK after the news I'd (not) had.
Not expecting to see anything from his estate they appear to have divvied it all up between themselves an I've not spoken to him in 20+ years. Couldn't stand the man hes the reason I have several scars but maintained he never touched me.

Anyway yes, people generally turn into money grabbers when things like this occur.

Also, don't have Fleetwood Mac, Big Love playing the background, namely the end section when on a conference call. It sounds pornographic, that was slightly awkward!

That's really **** Step, but if you don't like any of them and they're being money grabbing turds it might not hurt to contest the will.

This is where the fun begins, he ended up in Spain for various reasons. But under Spanish law even if he retained his UK citizenship all descendants and ascendants get an equal share of the estate over the spouse so by law i am entitled to a part of the estate but I guess on that time will tell as the estate has to be sold prior to funds being allocated from what I understand.

Stevo_666

homers_double said:

Kind of defeats the objective of someone saying "I don't want "X" to get a penny" in their will.

Depends whether the relatives have been playing games and persuading him to change it in their favour, etc.

Stevo_666

step83 said:

Stevo_666 said:

step83 said:

Morning, bright but cloudy here, odd combo.

Why do family deaths bring out the worst in people?

Not mentioned it on here but my father passed away middle of last month, only found out last week. Sisters, half brother and his widow appear to be keeping it hush hush as he had some wealth. I only found out accidentally when I got asked if I was OK after the news I'd (not) had.
Not expecting to see anything from his estate they appear to have divvied it all up between themselves an I've not spoken to him in 20+ years. Couldn't stand the man hes the reason I have several scars but maintained he never touched me.

Anyway yes, people generally turn into money grabbers when things like this occur.

Also, don't have Fleetwood Mac, Big Love playing the background, namely the end section when on a conference call. It sounds pornographic, that was slightly awkward!

That's really **** Step, but if you don't like any of them and they're being money grabbing turds it might not hurt to contest the will.

This is where the fun begins, he ended up in Spain for various reasons. But under Spanish law even if he retained his UK citizenship all descendants and ascendants get an equal share of the estate over the spouse so by law i am entitled to a part of the estate but I guess on that time will tell as the estate has to be sold prior to funds being allocated from what I understand.

Sounds like you're on the ball with this one Step.

homers_double

I wasn't suggesting he shouldn't get anything and he may well be in the will, not being told about the event isn't good enough reason not to be included

What I'm suggesting is that some people state that they don't want X to get anything so contesting that statement is wrong IMO.

Anyway, I'm out as discussing something this personal online isn't my cup of tea.

*wanders off home*

tlw1

step83 said:

Morning, bright but cloudy here, odd combo.

Why do family deaths bring out the worst in people?

Not mentioned it on here but my father passed away middle of last month, only found out last week. Sisters, half brother and his widow appear to be keeping it hush hush as he had some wealth. I only found out accidentally when I got asked if I was OK after the news I'd (not) had.
Not expecting to see anything from his estate they appear to have divvied it all up between themselves an I've not spoken to him in 20+ years. Couldn't stand the man hes the reason I have several scars but maintained he never touched me.

Anyway yes, people generally turn into money grabbers when things like this occur.

Also, don't have Fleetwood Mac, Big Love playing the background, namely the end section when on a conference call. It sounds pornographic, that was slightly awkward!

That’s shoot dude - hate to say it Stevo talks some sense - make the ferkers life’s hell for playing games, nothing to loose

orraloon

Sad to read of the families' troubles above. Been through the estate inheritance sort out scenario myself without any nastiness. Best wishes, and stay strong.

Here's a dilemma to put it all in perspective (😊 joke). At work today all day on clients' property until got thunderstormed off at 4.30. Got home, sitting down doing some admin, realise there is a massive rip in the arris of my work shorts. Don't know when that happened. Could it be I was parading around most of the day flashing my bikini bottoms? Do I send her a message saying oops, didn't know, apologies for any embarassment? But if it happened after I left I'd be exposing myself for no reason... 🤔

Stevo_666

homers_double said:

I wasn't suggesting he shouldn't get anything and he may well be in the will, not being told about the event isn't good enough reason not to be included

What I'm suggesting is that some people state that they don't want X to get anything so contesting that statement is wrong IMO.

Anyway, I'm out as discussing something this personal online isn't my cup of tea.

*wanders off home*

Fair enough, was just trying to give Step an idea or two in case he needed them, but he's clearly up to speed.

thistle_

orraloon said:

Sad to read of the families' troubles above. Been through the estate inheritance sort out scenario myself without any nastiness. Best wishes, and stay strong.

Here's a dilemma to put it all in perspective (😊 joke). At work today all day on clients' property until got thunderstormed off at 4.30. Got home, sitting down doing some admin, realise there is a massive rip in the arris of my work shorts. Don't know when that happened. Could it be I was parading around most of the day flashing my bikini bottoms? Do I send her a message saying oops, didn't know, apologies for any embarassment? But if it happened after I left I'd be exposing myself for no reason... 🤔

Maybe just warn her to be careful because you ripped your shorts at some point during the day and there might be something sharp she needs to watch out for.

See if that gets a response.

Stevo_666

thistle_(mbnw) said:

orraloon said:

Sad to read of the families' troubles above. Been through the estate inheritance sort out scenario myself without any nastiness. Best wishes, and stay strong.

Here's a dilemma to put it all in perspective (😊 joke). At work today all day on clients' property until got thunderstormed off at 4.30. Got home, sitting down doing some admin, realise there is a massive rip in the arris of my work shorts. Don't know when that happened. Could it be I was parading around most of the day flashing my bikini bottoms? Do I send her a message saying oops, didn't know, apologies for any embarassment? But if it happened after I left I'd be exposing myself for no reason... 🤔

Maybe just warn her to be careful because you ripped your shorts at some point during the day and there might be something sharp she needs to watch out for.

See if that gets a response.

If he tells her that, he might need to make it clear that the rip was at the back of his shorts and not the front.

Wheelspinner

orraloon said:

Sad to read of the families' troubles above. Been through the estate inheritance sort out scenario myself without any nastiness. Best wishes, and stay strong.

Here's a dilemma to put it all in perspective (😊 joke). At work today all day on clients' property until got thunderstormed off at 4.30. Got home, sitting down doing some admin, realise there is a massive rip in the arris of my work shorts. Don't know when that happened. Could it be I was parading around most of the day flashing my bikini bottoms? Do I send her a message saying oops, didn't know, apologies for any embarassment? But if it happened after I left I'd be exposing myself for no reason... 🤔

You been on @veronese68 curry and beer diet?

step83

orraloon said:

Sad to read of the families' troubles above. Been through the estate inheritance sort out scenario myself without any nastiness. Best wishes, and stay strong.

Here's a dilemma to put it all in perspective (😊 joke). At work today all day on clients' property until got thunderstormed off at 4.30. Got home, sitting down doing some admin, realise there is a massive rip in the arris of my work shorts. Don't know when that happened. Could it be I was parading around most of the day flashing my bikini bottoms? Do I send her a message saying oops, didn't know, apologies for any embarassment? But if it happened after I left I'd be exposing myself for no reason... 🤔

Are you sure the rip was there when you left the meeting? Could end up in the confusing situation where she either didn't see or notice said rip. Or she was just in a mood so thought "ha enjoy that too"

@Stevo_666 and @homers_double No offence taken, both my sisters have a history of money grabbing or wanting things for nothing.

My initial research was wrong turns out under Spanish law its split into three pots. one third between kids and parents, one pot they degree who it can go to, third goes to the widow.
I'm not actually worried if I see a penny of it more wish they had the decency to inform me of his passing. Clearly I expect more of people than I should