Is anything different for women?
fatdaz Posts: 348
edited February 2015 in Women's cycling forum
So Mrs FD would like to come cycling with me. I am incredibly pleased and loving the idea of doing something together but I don't want to be an over bearing know it all. I know the bits of advice which really helped me when I started but I don't want to end up droning on, is it any different for women? Is there any advice I should be focussing on or is it the same regardless of gender?
Additionally, lots of encouragement, compliments and positive reinforcement goes a long way. Focussing compliments on her effort input encourages even more effort - you want to reinforce the idea that by trying and getting out there, she will receive a 'reward' (in this case, positivity). Sorry if this sounds a bit like a psychology lesson, but treating the human brain a bit like an animal's allows you to properly train it :P
On the whole make sure you both enjoy it! Take her desires into account and NEVER drop her. Otherwise, I will hunt you down and drop you a thousand times!
I got dropped on my second sportive by my OH who was too busy riding with the others he hadn't noticed I wasn't there till the next stop :roll: Let's just say it hasn't happened again. It's amazing how much ground I made trying to chase him down in a temper :evil:
Go at her speed don't sit out front and push the pace or sit behind her and ride up her back wheel. Stop little and often and make sure she drinks and eats frequently.
Finally enjoy being out there together.
However he runs, and he's very good at it. He tried to get me into it and I started to improve (slowly) when he joined me on a run round the block. All it did was absolutely knock my confidence. I felt like I was am awful runner (I am), I was holding him back (I was), and I generally felt a hindrance. He was trying to help but all the advice did was to give me too much to think about when I at that level I really wasn't ready for fine tuning.
So. I would go at her pace, Don't push her to go faster/further , don't go too far, and just let her catch the cycling bug. Initially you just want her to enjoy having been on a ride rather than come home feeling like she's been on boot camp. There will be plenty of time for you to impart your advice later.
And finally, when you get home, make a point of telling her how much you enjoyed the ride.
Just enjoy it, see it as a fun activity for the two of you and not a training ride.
I've learnt that this goes for everyone, regardless of gender!