Is sex important in a relationship: - 'This Morning' on ITV

DonDaddyD

I was off work on Tuesday due to my annual health check and I got roped into watching This Morning and they had this little segment: Is sex important in a relationship

On the show there were two women (one having regular sex with her 'man' and the other, a mother, who goes months without having sex ) arguing over whether sex was important to a relationship.

What was interesting was that 69% of viewers (and we can question the demographic) agreed with the Mum who goes months without having sex with her man. Now a prossie (a few) are saying "then you wonder why these men come see us". And Mums net is littered with threads where women have happened across their other half's 'adultwork' account... So clearly there is an issue or a misconception on one groups part.

So I put it to you, in your view is sex important to a relationship or would you happily go months without shagging your other half without ever thinking about straying?

mudcow007

sorry but, no in & out an im straight outta there....

tis nature

i remember speaking my mrs's boss in a taxi (my mrs was there also) an she was saying her an husband sleep in separate beds an have done for years n years...

me being pished said "pfft why dont you move out then an get your groove on with someone else?!"

which she replied with "oh i dont need any of that, im too old" she was only about 50

gtvlusso

Jeez; Another thread was started asking where the man was, he comes back with a blinder!

Yes it is important.

Tricky when they are pregnant and it ain't pretty or graceful...... :shock:

DonDaddyD

Who voted 'no' MAN UP! Post your thoughts and opinions so we can flam... er.. respond in a constructive manner. Go on, dare you!

Me? Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship but it is a part of the relationship and if neglected, like another other aspect of a relationship, can become a major issue.

DonDaddyD

gtvlusso wrote:

Tricky when they are pregnant and it ain't pretty or graceful...... :shock:

Weren't for me that...

Kieran_Burns

DonDaddyD wrote:

gtvlusso wrote:

Tricky when they are pregnant and it ain't pretty or graceful...... :shock:

Weren't for me that...

I would say brown wings but some idiot would accuse me of being racist

veronese68

What's the saying? "Sex is like oxygen, it's only important if you aren't getting any."
Except I reckon it is important when you are getting some.
Regarding the pregnancy thing, MTFU you pair of wimps.

CiB

Poll fail. A binary option says it either is, or it isn't.

There's a midway point that says 'yeah it's a part of it but not a dominant factor'. And there's no ageing factor. For those of us whose ages start with a number higher than 4 its importance starts to wain.

mudcow007

Kieran_Burns wrote:

DonDaddyD wrote:

gtvlusso wrote:

Tricky when they are pregnant and it ain't pretty or graceful...... :shock:

Weren't for me that...

I would say brown wings but some idiot would accuse me of being racist

not even for christmas or my birthday

DonDaddyD

CiB wrote:

Poll fail. A binary option says it either is, or it isn't.

There's a midway point that says 'yeah it's a part of it but not a dominant factor'. And there's no ageing factor. For those of us whose ages start with a number higher than 4 its importance starts to wain.

So why get the snip if you aren't going to get laid all that often?

I want to know that I'm at least 80 before the gaps between sex starts getting into the months as oppose to weeks, days.

TheStone

DonDaddyD wrote:

and I got roped into watching This Morning

You managed to bunk a day off work and wasted it watching that rubbish??
Is loose women still going and that game with the boxes?

lostboysaint

Yes it's important. And it's always interesting that for every one of those 69% of daytime television watching housewives that voted "no" there will be at least one other that is fucking the brains out of their bored husbands! (Again, where do "Mumsnet" think half of the female accounts come from?!)

CiB

DonDaddyD wrote:

So why get the snip if you aren't going to get laid all that often?

So that when we do, we do, without interruption, hesitation or repetition etc. Deviation is ok. It's quality not quantity when you get past the rush of youth. Not that I'd mind a rush of youth from time to time, esp with some of what we've got in this building.

rjsterry

DonDaddyD wrote:

CiB wrote:

Poll fail. A binary option says it either is, or it isn't.

There's a midway point that says 'yeah it's a part of it but not a dominant factor'. And there's no ageing factor. For those of us whose ages start with a number higher than 4 its importance starts to wain.

So why get the snip if you aren't going to get laid all that often?

I want to know that I'm at least 80 before the gaps between sex starts getting into the months as oppose to weeks, days.

Because if it's a now-and-then thing, when the mood does take you, you don't want to start by spending half an hour storming round the house demanding to know who has moved the...

gtvlusso

@DDD - Are you stalking on mumsnet again?

[pregnant]

Closest I get to sex at the moment is stroking the fecking dog.....

I think that's also the closest that the dog gets too! :shock:

[/pregnant]

Paul E

:roll:

daddy0

If you'd have asked me when I was 25 I'd have said yes. I'm a 35 year old dad now, and I say no, its not important. If it is important to you then for heavens sake - don't have a baby!!!

lostboysaint

Daddy0 wrote:

If you'd have asked me when I was 25 I'd have said yes. I'm a 35 year old dad now, and I say no, its not important. If it is important to you then for heavens sake - don't have a baby!!!

Really? Not my experience of sex during pregnancy or after. You just need to man up, ask the question more often and get it on when she says "and I thought you'd gone off me....."!!

greg66_tri_v2.0

DonDaddyD wrote:

On the show there were two women (one having regular sex with her 'man'

I wonder whether I can watch that "on demand".

jonny_trousers

Important, yes. Fundamental, no.

It's certainly an issue when one desires, yet the other withholds. If both parties are happy going without then I see no reason why they cannot have a wonderful relationship. I would suggest a lack of intimacy is a bigger issue than a lack of rumpy-pumpy.

Drfabulous0

Daddy0 wrote:

If you'd have asked me when I was 25 I'd have said yes. I'm a 35 year old dad now, and I say no, its not important. If it is important to you then for heavens sake - don't have a baby!!!

Where do you think babies come from?

gosport_commuter

For me and my wife it is extremely important and has been for over a decade. I would lke to think that when we do start to slow down and more than a few days passes between sex that we do - I hope - actually have something else in common!

For the record I am 31 with 2 kids and have had the "snip".

SteppenHerring

With me and Mrs. H. there are a load of things that are important: sex, money, time, a working dishwasher ... All the things we don't have.

rick_chasey

Wasn't there a French divorce case where the judge ruled wife was to blame because she never put out? French law says it is.

Edit: twas the other way around.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldne ... f-sex.html

pastryboy

Not that important, can always crack one off whilst watching Loose Women instead.

merkin

pastryboy wrote:

Not that important, can always crack one off whilst watching Loose Women instead.

Yep, do that sometimes myself. The manager in Dixons gets a bit annoyed but it's not like I can do it in John Lewis as I am banned.

greg66_tri_v2.0

Drfabulous0 wrote:

Where do you think babies come from?

Didn't you watch "Knocked Up"?

Sadie: Where do babies come from?
Debbie: Where do you think they come from?
Sadie: Well. I think a stork, he umm, he drops it down and then, and then, a hole goes in your body and there's blood everywhere, coming out of your head and then you push your belly button and then your butt falls off and then you hold your butt and you have to dig and you find the little baby.
Debbie: That's exactly right.

clarkey cat

DDD, give her time. She'll get back into it, I'm sure.

peat

Strokes for folks. Some people need it as a constant validating expression of love/lust, others go off it after a while. Meh. Why is that though? Nature or nurture? Misbehaving blokes usually site 'Human nature' as an excuse, but with the sheer amount of grot were exposed to from a young age, could it be pressure of society? [/pointless ramble]

I understand that some mother's become a bit self-conscious after they have been torn-up by a baby and don't want it anymore. They then usually throw their life and soul into raising baby and end up the size of a house. Thus, reducing the self-esteem further. In those cases, i'm not so sure i believe the 'we don't need sex, our relationship is much deeper than that' line.

Then as we get older, i think it's natural to stop lusting after it as much. By that time we 'should' have bore offspring if we're going to. As Doug Stanhope puts it: "Erectile Dysfunction? No, it's functioning perfectly by NOT being erect. You're old and gross - stop f***ing!"

In summary: I don't care.

DonDaddyD

clarkey cat wrote:

DDD, give her time. She'll get back into it, I'm sure.