How do you get it past the other half???

Ringo 68

RichardSwt wrote:

I'm actually considering leaving my MTB outside Sainsbury's so it gets stolen.

Then come home absolutely devastated (almost - but not quite - in tears). Ham it up a bit about how emotionality attached I was to that bike and I'll never be able to replace it.

Carry this on for as long as it takes till she mentions that I could "always buy a new one". Then, BANG straight on to the Rose web site. New bike and the misses suggested it. WIN.

Good tactic. Might try this myself in a couple of years when it is upgrade time. :twisted:

Crankbrother

A very cheap lock might also come in handy ... That way you might get a hand from the insurance ... Should the worst happen, heaven forbid etc.

Anonymous

Ringo 68 wrote:

RichardSwt wrote:

I'm actually considering leaving my MTB outside Sainsbury's so it gets stolen.

Then come home absolutely devastated (almost - but not quite - in tears). Ham it up a bit about how emotionality attached I was to that bike and I'll never be able to replace it.

Carry this on for as long as it takes till she mentions that I could "always buy a new one". Then, BANG straight on to the Rose web site. New bike and the misses suggested it. WIN.

Good tactic. Might try this myself in a couple of years when it is upgrade time. :twisted:

Ironically it would only be worth trying on a bike you didn't feel to attached to. Don't think I'd try it with my Scott, even though I do fancy the new Foil.

Anonymous

Crankbrother wrote:

A very cheap lock might also come in handy ... That way you might get a hand from the insurance ... Should the worst happen, heaven forbid etc.

Ahh, now that would be insurance fraud. That's dishonest, can't be dishonest now can we?

Nancy Luger

Jeez. :shock: I genuinely don't understand alll this lying/'justifying' purchases. If I want something new I go and buy it. My missus doesn't mind one bit, in fact she encourages me to always buy the best I can afford and never ever has she given me grief for it. Couple of months ago I needed a new laptop. She said 'I don't know why you don't just buy a Macbook' 'But they're a grand' says I. 'Yeah but they're 100 times better than them crap PCs' So now I have a nice shiny new Mac

I've always thought there's a deep rooted jealousy in wives/girlfriends who give their blokes grief for spending their own hard earned, whether it's bikes, cars, the football or whatever, like they can't stand you to spend money on yourself. I wouldn't spend 5 minutes with a bird like that.

Anonymous

Nancy Luger wrote:

Jeez. :shock: I genuinely don't understand alll this lying/'justifying' purchases. If I want something new I go and buy it. My missus doesn't mind one bit, in fact she encourages me to always buy the best I can afford and never ever has she given me grief for it. Couple of months ago I needed a new laptop. She said 'I don't know why you don't just buy a Macbook' 'But they're a grand' says I. 'Yeah but they're 100 times better than them crap PCs' So now I have a nice shiny new Mac

I've always thought there's a deep rooted jealousy in wives/girlfriends who give their blokes grief for spending their own hard earned, whether it's bikes, cars, the football or whatever, like they can't stand you to spend money on yourself. I wouldn't spend 5 minutes with a bird like that.

Dose your misses have a single younger sister?

Ringo 68

To be fair to my missus, one of us has to be sensible with money.

If I was left to my own devices, we would be out on the street after having our house repossesed.

I have spent well over a grand in the last month on bike/bike gear and she knows of (almost) all of it. As she looks after the bank accounts etc it is very difficult for me to get much past her anyway.

APIII

Nancy Luger wrote:

Jeez. :shock: I genuinely don't understand alll this lying/'justifying' purchases. If I want something new I go and buy it. My missus doesn't mind one bit, in fact she encourages me to always buy the best I can afford and never ever has she given me grief for it. Couple of months ago I needed a new laptop. She said 'I don't know why you don't just buy a Macbook' 'But they're a grand' says I. 'Yeah but they're 100 times better than them crap PCs' So now I have a nice shiny new Mac

I've always thought there's a deep rooted jealousy in wives/girlfriends who give their blokes grief for spending their own hard earned, whether it's bikes, cars, the football or whatever, like they can't stand you to spend money on yourself. I wouldn't spend 5 minutes with a bird like that.

You're just showing off cos you've got a Macbook

bendertherobot

Always buy the same colour as the old one

Anonymous

This bloke claims to be a expert -

http://www.bikeradar.com/forum/viewtopic.php?p=17215247

superkenners

Nancy Luger wrote:

Jeez. :shock: I genuinely don't understand alll this lying/'justifying' purchases. If I want something new I go and buy it. My missus doesn't mind one bit, in fact she encourages me to always buy the best I can afford and never ever has she given me grief for it. Couple of months ago I needed a new laptop. She said 'I don't know why you don't just buy a Macbook' 'But they're a grand' says I. 'Yeah but they're 100 times better than them crap PCs' So now I have a nice shiny new Mac

I've always thought there's a deep rooted jealousy in wives/girlfriends who give their blokes grief for spending their own hard earned, whether it's bikes, cars, the football or whatever, like they can't stand you to spend money on yourself. I wouldn't spend 5 minutes with a bird like that.

Sounds too good to be true, I have a feeling you are about to discover 10 credit cards you didn't know about and a rented garage full of shoes and handbags, its just a softening up excercise!!

mouth

I must admit that if my Mrs says "yeh sure, go and buy that thing you want which costs£xxxxx" it normally means there will be a parcel arriving with her name on it some time soon.

In the last 3 years, I've had 2 bikes with all the gubbins (computer, lycra etc), a set of golf clubs, 2 separate holidays from her, a full set of ice/roller hockey kit for both playing and refereeing (honestly, you thought bikes were expensive.......) and we are also in the process of buying a house. I happen to think it'd be a little cheeky of me to say "please can I have 1200 quid for a Pinarello. I'll give it a few months.

marcusjb

I definitely do not understand the need to sneak stuff past the other half.

We have a joint account, we have our own personal current accounts. We are both paid into our respective personal accounts and then transfer an agreed amount into the joint account. That joint account then pays all our outgoings. If we are buying something 'big' together (mainly holidays in our case) we'll either buy it from the joint account and transfer half of it's value in each or one of us will buy it and the other will transfer money across etc.

As long as that money goes into the joint account, there's then no pressure on either of us about what happens with the rest of our (own) money. If she chooses to spend her money on clothes (her only real extravagance), then that is fine - that is her money.

If I choose to spend it all on bikes, then no pressure from her - it's my money.

Obviously, the purchase of an additional bike takes a little more negotiation as it has impact on space. We currently have a hanging space in the hallway empty - so this might be filled sometime soon, but I'd talk it through first. Nothing to do with the money though, if I choose to spend several grand on a new bike, it's my choice - as long as there's somewhere to put it!

I think communication is the key, and understanding your basic obligations - as long as the bills are paid and you have a clear understanding of what money is 'joint' and what money is your own, then there's no big deal. It would obviously be a different matter if I spent all my money on bikes and couldn't then make my contribution to the joint account. I'd expect to be sleeping on the streets if that happened.

rubertoe

marcusjb wrote:

I definitely do not understand the need to sneak stuff past the other half.

We have a joint account, we have our own personal current accounts. We are both paid into our respective personal accounts and then transfer an agreed amount into the joint account. That joint account then pays all our outgoings. If we are buying something 'big' together (mainly holidays in our case) we'll either buy it from the joint account and transfer half of it's value in each or one of us will buy it and the other will transfer money across etc.

As long as that money goes into the joint account, there's then no pressure on either of us about what happens with the rest of our (own) money. If she chooses to spend her money on clothes (her only real extravagance), then that is fine - that is her money.If I choose to spend it all on bikes, then no pressure from her - it's my money.

Obviously, the purchase of an additional bike takes a little more negotiation as it has impact on space. We currently have a hanging space in the hallway empty - so this might be filled sometime soon, but I'd talk it through first. Nothing to do with the money though, if I choose to spend several grand on a new bike, it's my choice - as long as there's somewhere to put it!

I think communication is the key, and understanding your basic obligations - as long as the bills are paid and you have a clear understanding of what money is 'joint' and what money is your own, then there's no big deal. It would obviously be a different matter if I spent all my money on bikes and couldn't then make my contribution to the joint account. I'd expect to be sleeping on the streets if that happened.

This is the answer - pay your Bills/Outgoings first (via shared Joint account that you both equally contribute to) - then the rest of YOUR money is yours to do as you please.

ex-pat scot

easy when there's clear surplus finds.


Not so easy when 6 mouths to feed and parental pressure.

All our money is in a shared pot, and there's never enough of it. And one salary now. Bikes then are viewed as toys; as frivolities.
Even the "I need a new chain / cassette / tyre" goes down like a lead balloon.

mongerbunger

JUST GROW A PAIR!!

pipipi

I like the idea of pretending it's a chinese fake.

Maybe spend some time on these fake websites, and get seen doing it, saying look how much cheaper these are etc.

Then buy a legit bike but tell her it was a fake.


But overall I think honesty works best. Your bike mate will know it's real, or you will tell him. He'll tell his missus. She'll speak to yours. Big trouble! Maybe chinese fake isn't so good?

Bar Shaker

ex-pat scot wrote:

Not so easy when 6 mouths to feed and parental pressure.

My wife and I always had a joint bills account and then spent our money on what we each wanted.

6 mouths? Jeez man, have you never heard of contraception? You only have yourself to blame with that one.

Kiwi_rich

I bought the wife something expensive & a few months later she suggested I should get myself a new bike. I waited a month or so & then went & bought it, as I had to wait 4 months for it to be made the price never came up. When it eventually did I low balled it and still caused shock. I then rationalized it as a mid life crisis & suggested that she should be thankful I didn't get a sports car &/or mistress. Nowadays it is accepted.

That approach will only work once.

lemoncurd

marcusjb wrote:

I definitely do not understand the need to sneak stuff past the other half.
We have a joint account, we have our own personal current accounts. We are both paid into our respective personal accounts and then transfer an agreed amount into the joint account

I don't understand this setup either, why not share everything? What would happen if one of you started earning vastly more than the other?

A couple of married friends of mine had a similar way of dividing money up, at one point the husband lent his wife money so that she could buy a car. It was bonkers but each to their own.

Peddle Up!

Or say, "I could always take up golf".

Anonymous

Ah yes, I play that too.

byke68

I once brought a MTB and kept it at work. All was well for two weeks until the credit card bill came in! Boy, was I in the dog-house! Half of our house is cluttered with her embroidery and knitting stuff but there's hell on if I want to keep one of my bikes in the kitchen over-night! :oops:
"Women, know your limits!" :evil:

Regieuk

I try a mix of most things, luckily when it comes to the rare 'biggy' the Mrs is pretty understanding and realises that I am going through a long drawn out mid life crisis that means either A/ A motorbike, B/ A sports car C/ a mistress or D/ Shiny new bike! Seeing as the first two would be very pricey and the third would involve her getting her hands bloody as she castrated me the shiny new bike is a pretty good option!
However when it comes to the 'bling' (matching kit, brake lines etc etc) most items tend to be £5.00 off Ebay!!
And the tip for buying the same colours is a sound one, works for me, as far as the better half is concerned one cycling top is the same as another!

mouth

byke68 wrote:

I once brought a MTB and kept it at work. All was well for two weeks until the credit card bill came in! Boy, was I in the dog-house! Half of our house is cluttered with her embroidery and knitting stuff but there's hell on if I want to keep one of my bikes in the kitchen over-night! :oops:
"Women, know your limits!" :evil:

There's a guy at work who keeps his Avanti Comp 105 in the pound. Claims he doesn't have room for it at home but I suspect something a little more sinister since he rides a British Eagle to work every day.

Another mate of mine 'forgot' to tell her at home that he'd bought a business. In fairness he had worked there for years and continues to do so and little has changed. But how can you forget to tell her that? Then again when he swapped his Golf for a 3-door from a 5, she didn't notice. She's a teacher.

milese

lemoncurd wrote:

marcusjb wrote:

I definitely do not understand the need to sneak stuff past the other half.
We have a joint account, we have our own personal current accounts. We are both paid into our respective personal accounts and then transfer an agreed amount into the joint account

I don't understand this setup either, why not share everything? What would happen if one of you started earning vastly more than the other?

Because then you get angry when she buys shoes and she gets angry when you buy bike stuff, it makes it fair, and means you haven't to discuss everything, and prevents score keeping. Of course it depends on the relationship and the individuals.

More you earn the greater your joint account contribution.

A female friend uses this system, and gets 20 cash back from the joint account every time she goes to Tesco.

ollyridesfirst

I'm liking the idea of leaving your bike outside a shop to get stolen.....even better if you get your mate to actually steal it and keep it at his house....let's face it, the police are rarely interested!

Once you have got the bike out of the way and have bought a new one, stick the old one on eBay

daviesee

Assuming your budget can stand it, just tell her. For your own sake.
Covering up will be caught eventually and then you will pay. Boy, will you pay.

If the budget can't stand it then we understand but you must resist. After years of credit cards I have now went old skool and wait till I have the money ready to buy cash. Life is much simpler. Needs must. Wants wait.

vorsprung

The best plan is to travel back to the 1970s and star in "On the buses"

Coz that's what your "get it past the other half" BS sounds like, a plot from a old sitcom

ilm_zero7

lemoncurd wrote:

marcusjb wrote:

I definitely do not understand the need to sneak stuff past the other half.
We have a joint account, we have our own personal current accounts. We are both paid into our respective personal accounts and then transfer an agreed amount into the joint account

I don't understand this setup either, why not share everything? What would happen if one of you started earning vastly more than the other?

A couple of married friends of mine had a similar way of dividing money up, at one point the husband lent his wife money so that she could buy a car. It was bonkers but each to their own.

that is backward - if you are a 'partnership' then put everything into one pot and take out what you need - my wife and I both have what I suppose you might call 'allowances'..... the bulk (perhaps not the right phrase) of any money is in a joint account, or joint savings.

No and then one says.. I need a bit more this month, and we both take that same extra. But failure to disclose is a recipe for disaster and mis-trust