am i in the wrong?
Kaise
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right,
my soon wife to be keeps going on how she is fat, putting on weight etc etc etc, and to be honest i dont think she is, i think she looks great (and before you say it i am not a feeder)
So this morning i turn round and say,
"look i love you no matter what and i think you look great, but if you keep saying 'i'm fat' and i need to lose weight' then eventually i will start to believe you. If your not happy do something about it, if you dont care then dont, but either way stop telling me that my fiancee is fat"
i was then given the silent treatment until i left the house,
am i in the wrong here or something?
my soon wife to be keeps going on how she is fat, putting on weight etc etc etc, and to be honest i dont think she is, i think she looks great (and before you say it i am not a feeder)
So this morning i turn round and say,
"look i love you no matter what and i think you look great, but if you keep saying 'i'm fat' and i need to lose weight' then eventually i will start to believe you. If your not happy do something about it, if you dont care then dont, but either way stop telling me that my fiancee is fat"
i was then given the silent treatment until i left the house,
am i in the wrong here or something?
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No, you're just dealing with women, much the same as me.
I hear the old "I'm so fat" thing about once a week from my wife, and now I just don't say anything back. There was a period where I said "if you think so then exercise and lose the weight, but I don't think you're fat" and they automatically think we mean they are super fat barches from that statement.
Your not in the wrong at all. Women are just lazy, confused little creatures.0 -
just women mate, they're weird, after my gf had our baby she put on a bit of weight, she used to be a size 8-10 now she's a 10-12.
she keeps saying she wants togo to the gym to lose weight etc to get back down to how small she used to be. the other day i said to her that i was home from work early all weeek so if she wanted to go to the gym i'd look after the baby. this resulted in her thinking i was calling her fat and she needed to lose weight etc etc (i don't think that BTW)
ijust gave up in the end :?0 -
welshkev wrote:just women mate, they're weird, after my gf had our baby she put on a bit of weight, she used to be a size 8-10 now she's a 10-12.
she keeps saying she wants togo to the gym to lose weight etc to get back down to how small she used to be. the other day i said to her that i was home from work early all weeek so if she wanted to go to the gym i'd look after the baby. this resulted in her thinking i was calling her fat and she needed to lose weight etc etc (i don't think that BTW)
ijust gave up in the end :?
My wife does exactly the same thing. But with the home trainer at home. She got me to move it downstairs, and reorganise the living room so she could cycle on the home trainer while watching t.v. After 2 weeks she had cycled a total of 10 minutes on the home trainer, and when I asked if she was actually using the home trainer, she started screaming "you just think i'm fat and are trying to pressure me to lose weight because your not happy". This was after her asking me to move everything, and only asking if she was using it at all.
What is wrong with those creatures?0 -
Yes you are male, this makes you wrong in their eyes.kaiser83
am i in the wrong?
I find Silence is the best way to deal with my wife, if she asks questions that there is no right answer i dont answer. but in your case i believe you did what was needed and she'll probably think about it all day and realise your right by the time you see her tonight.0 -
i suppose i could have gone the other way, an been a real barsteward and said
"yeah you are fat, and you do need to lose weight, now sort it"
maybe that would go in quicker!
It just seems we are having these disagreements all the fecking time and its starting to annoy me. We didnt have this before,
women are indeed mental!0 -
you wait until she's your wife and not just a fiance! then all logic goes out the window and any common sense discussions will be replaced with nonsense.0
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Kitty wrote:No matter what you say, you'll never win.
see i thought this previously, but if she pushes me to it by constantly be crazy, ie not like the woman i have known for 3 years, then it'll be over.
then i havent won and i havent lost!0 -
kaiser83 wrote:Kitty wrote:No matter what you say, you'll never win.
see i thought this previously, but if she pushes me to it by constantly be crazy, ie not like the woman i have known for 3 years, then it'll be over.
then i havent won and i havent lost!
I am currently having the same thoughts as you man, so many retarded arguments that never used to happen before are now happening, and killing everything.0 -
at the end of the day i am not going to finish with her, i love her to bits, i just dont know why she has turned mental on me!
I send her a message to let her know i havent been run over on my way in, and i usually get some kind of response, this morning nothing, so i have obviously annoyed her.
i will not email or text her!0 -
kaiser83 wrote:at the end of the day i am not going to finish with her, i love her to bits, i just dont know why she has turned mental on me!
I send her a message to let her know i havent been run over on my way in, and i usually get some kind of response, this morning nothing, so i have obviously annoyed her.
i will not email or text her!
When women go crazy, just give them space dude. I normally fuck off down the pub when woman is in her moods.0 -
Just leave her in a ditch with her head on backwards. That'll stop all the arguments. Worked for my wife.
Plus, once she's dead she'll soon start losing weight, so she still gets what she wants, and you get a nice quiet house free of craziness.0 -
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kaiser83 wrote:Kitty wrote:No matter what you say, you'll never win.
see i thought this previously, but if she pushes me to it by constantly be crazy, ie not like the woman i have known for 3 years, then it'll be over.
then i havent won and i havent lost!
Oh yeah it stupid but that's the way it is. When my friends whinge I tell them their fine as they are but if their unhappy do something about it or stop talking about it.0 -
no matter what you said mate you are in the wrong in her eyes0
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"look i love you no matter what...." - (in their head) that mean you agree she is fat or something "wrong" with her.
"If your not happy do something about it..." - (in their head) that mean you are calling her lazy and just moan all the time."It is not impossible, its just improbable"
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kaiser83 wrote:"yeah you are fat, and you do need to lose weight, now sort it"
i said something similar once and it work.
wife: "do you think i look fat and need to lose weight?"
me: "no, you are not fat. you are just obese."
she found that funny."It is not impossible, its just improbable"
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Man soy_sauce, you got it made.
If I said that, it would be like I just killed her mother in front of her. All hell would break loose.0 -
kaiser83 wrote:
am i in the wrong here or something?
Yes, you opened your mouth so of course you are wrong. I find the best way to cope with that is to say " I don't think you are fat/putting on weight, but if its bothering you then lets do something together to help put your mind at ease, something fun like go for a swim or a walk etc etc, but seriously, theres nothing you have to do for me" I find that the offer of support along with the reassurance and the chance to spend time together doing something goes down well.
Trust me, this is coming from a man who looks like a condom filled with putty and covered in hair, if I can keep a lady then I must be doing something right0 -
Gazlar wrote:kaiser83 wrote:
am i in the wrong here or something?
Yes, you opened your mouth so of course you are wrong. I find the best way to cope with that is to say " I don't think you are fat/putting on weight, but if its bothering you then lets do something together to help put your mind at ease, something fun like go for a swim or a walk etc etc, but seriously, theres nothing you have to do for me" I find that the offer of support along with the reassurance and the chance to spend time together doing something goes down well.
Trust me, this is coming from a man who looks like a condom filled with putty and covered in hair, if I can keep a lady then I must be doing something right
Be honest Gaz, the constant beatings and lots and lots of rohypnol help you just a little bit.0 -
My abundant supply of MTFU is reserved for use in dry, sunny conditions.0
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When I get any questions that fall into the trap I just say "I'm not answering that and YOU KNOW WHY!!!". The wife used to get angry at that but now accepts that any answer I give is a recipe for a 2 hour arguement.Formally known as Coatbridgeguy0
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Cat With No Tail wrote:Gazlar wrote:kaiser83 wrote:
am i in the wrong here or something?
Yes, you opened your mouth so of course you are wrong. I find the best way to cope with that is to say " I don't think you are fat/putting on weight, but if its bothering you then lets do something together to help put your mind at ease, something fun like go for a swim or a walk etc etc, but seriously, theres nothing you have to do for me" I find that the offer of support along with the reassurance and the chance to spend time together doing something goes down well.
Trust me, this is coming from a man who looks like a condom filled with putty and covered in hair, if I can keep a lady then I must be doing something right
Be honest Gaz, the constant beatings and lots and lots of rohypnol help you just a little bit.
yeah but sureley she could have ran away when she drugged and battered me!0 -
WE HAVE A WINNER!!
just got a message from the mrs-to-be which said
Sorry for being irrational, not sure where that came from. Can i come on your recovery run tonight? i am going to do something about it instead of moanin i promise!
so i think it sank in that i was talking sense and at the end of the day i'm just looking after her health!
So i have a running buddy for the sloow recovery jog i'm doing tonight
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Go some place quiet and slap the crap out her for daring to get moody at you. Then kick her all the way home and demand dinner be cooked promptly.
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Women, ya can't live with them, ya can't live without them...
I've been married for longer than most of you have been alive. Still don't understand Mrs C at times. I find it easier to ignore her and go ride my bike. She's normally calmed down (or the rhynophol's worn off) by the time I get home.0 -
Montevideoguy wrote:Go some place quiet and slap the crap out her for daring to get moody at you. Then kick her all the way home and demand dinner be cooked promptly.
You'll thank me for these words of advice later
Only words of advice are to leave her in a ditch with her head backwards!0 -
My Mrs started having a go at me about hitting the gym 4 times a week, so I told her she could do with getting down there. After a couple of days of grumps, she joined up and lost 2 stone. Simples!
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