Am I in the wrong? - firework-related

Nuggs

pedylan wrote:

Stuff

While your attitude is admirable (have you considered a career in the UN/hostage negotiation?), I'm not sure it applies here.

Big JimmyB's neighbour is behaving like a weapons grade bell end and so makes an unlikely candidate for becoming his new best friend.

However, I do agree that BJB should go and errect some scaffolding in his neighbour's garden (that was the point of the post, wasn't it?).

pepelepew

I think you've done all you can. You spoke to him reasonably and he reacted like an arrogant tool. The bloke sounds like a bell end and is best avoided. (Says he who uses his motorbike to go to work at 6 a.m. on earlies. Oops! I do get on and go in my defence).

You won't get anywhere with the noise unless he's doing it intentionally or his can is illegal. Has anyone else complained? 8 o'clock is not unreasonable to start a bike.

It sounds like he's getting to you. I know it's easy to say, but it's not worth it. I hate people taking liberties. However, without sounding dramatic, we've just had a murder on our patch that was neighbour related.

It was a dispute over...wait for it...parking.

Parking!

BigJimmyB

pepelepew wrote:

It was a dispute over...wait for it...parking.

Parking!

Blimey.

Well, things haven't and certainly won't go that far!

Guy Fawkes night is finally over I hope (it's run from Thu-Sun so far - see what tonight brings), so another year before we see what he does with his fireworks.

As for the bike, I can live with it. I just used it to illustrate my point.

Pross

We'd been keeping our daughter's baby rabbits in for the last few evenings. Finally put them out about 9.00pm last night thinking we were safe as there hadn't been any fireworks all night. 10 minutes later the chav family a few doors away started letting off fireworks. Now, our gardens are about 5m x 5m but they were plainly using the fireworks that are supposed to have everyone back 25 or 50m and there's a busy road running right behind the fence. I love fireworks and like going to our friends who have a lot of land to set them off but this was ridiculous, the walls were shaking and several rocket carcasses landed on our roof. Quickly got the rabbits back inside where it was slightly quieter by which time they were shaking like mad. Some people seem to think they live in the middle of nowhere and don't take into account those who have to share their environment - what does it take to think "would I be happy if my neighbours were doing this?"

drewfromrisca

. In the US they might just come round and shoot you.[/quote]


What? This only happens in the US?! Bit prejudice isn't it?

pedylan

BigJimmyB wrote:

pedylan wrote:

I agree : the reaction of your neighbour suggested a complete lack of consideration, as does his general behaviour.

But is some of the problem that you've never spoken to him without their being some tension? If you'd had a few normal polite conversations you may not have had the abrupt couldn't give a stuff reaction. Have you talked to him about the bike?

Sorry mate, but please don't suggest the problem is mine. To clear things up (and perhaps I should have mentioned this earlier) I'm as polite and considerate with as many of my neighbours as poss

I didn't mean to suggest you were part of the problem, I just wondered what the background was and whether you'd had any day to day type exchanges. Now you've filled that in, I'd say that my opening comment is sufficient. The guy sees himself and his as the centre of his universe and his effect on others doesn't register. In answer to your originall question, no, you're not. That leaves you with official intervention - local authority environmental staff on the noise nuisance for example.

BTW, good luck with the twins; when ours were born a colleague with twins told us to prepare for 3 wasted years. He wasn't quite right and the subsequent 17 have been great.

pedylan

Nuggs wrote:

pedylan wrote:

Stuff

While your attitude is admirable (have you considered a career in the UN/hostage negotiation?), I'm not sure it applies here.

Big JimmyB's neighbour is behaving like a weapons grade bell end and so makes an unlikely candidate for becoming his new best friend.

However, I do agree that BJB should go and errect some scaffolding in his neighbour's garden (that was the point of the post, wasn't it?).

Er, no, that would be ridiculous wouldn't it? I just thought this thread was beginning to eat itself with comments about how sh*t everyone was and how many cr*p neighbours there were. Seemed to culminate in a justification for believing the whole country was lamentable. Just an observation that not everyone is an "I'm alright Jack" type.

BigJimmyB

pedylan wrote:

I didn't mean to suggest you were part of the problem, I just wondered what the background was and whether you'd had any day to day type exchanges. Now you've filled that in, I'd say that my opening comment is sufficient. The guy sees himself and his as the centre of his universe and his effect on others doesn't register. In answer to your originall question, no, you're not. That leaves you with official intervention - local authority environmental staff on the noise nuisance for example.

I guess I'll just have to see how next year goes.

I wouldn't really suggest society as a whole is bad, but I have noticed increasing levels of 'FU, I'll do what I want and to hell with whoever doesn't like it...."

The comment "How would I feel if my neighbours did this" is a question this bloke obviously never asks of himself - ho hum....

pedylan wrote:

BTW, good luck with the twins; when ours were born a colleague with twins told us to prepare for 3 wasted years. He wasn't quite right and the subsequent 17 have been great.

Thanks, I'd never call the years wasted - just hard work!. No doubt I'll publlsh the details when they arrive. We know we're in for a slog. Me & Mrs BJB have already had a heart-to-heart over the fact that 2hrs + MTB'ing each Sunday may well go out of the window. I'm considering selling up and concentrating on road riding....:-(

Nuggs

BigJimmyB wrote:

concentrating on road riding....:-(

Well there's the silver lining