Life is Sh*te sometimes

It's not just an internet forum though. We're all mates on here (most of the time ) Somewhere to have a laugh, a bit of banter and bare your soul like you have. Not good to bottle things up. Good luck, especially to Mrs Nutter.

Ha, Great Photo! Good Luck to you and Mrs Nutter. My Aunt had a Brain Tumour diagnosed and was, essentially, given a life sentence. The latest scan shows that the Tumour has gone so it's possible!

Take solace in the knowledge that Frank doesn't really know what's happening to him so show him the best 3 months a dog could have!

Keep Talking to people (virtual or not), I had some bad times a few years ago and spent a lot of time talking to friends, family and professionals and firmly believe that almost everyone i know could benefit from talking more. Even something girly, soppy and slushy like "I love you" can make that person's day, so say it!

Too true, life is all just ups and downs. Getting things off your chest is a must though, it lightens the load in a way. I wish you and your wife, and your 'boy' Frank all the best.

Velonutter. dont want to turn this into some kind of "black catting contest" but suffice to say mate I can empathise with you.

My dog Jess is 12 (border terrier) and touch wood in rude health, But through all my problems this last year the one thing that never fails to make me smile is the enthusiasm and love that dog greets me with everyday.

Frank looks a big charachter, boxers are just such amazing dogs, full of expression and fun.

Thoughts are with you hoping for better times for you and all your family.

As the title says fella, life is sh1te sometimes, hopefully not all the time though.

Good news your wife is in remission and hope things will keep going well for you both there. As for Frank that's a real bad call, he looks a fine dog and they're not called mans best friend for nowt. Don't feel silly posting on here if it helps you come to terms with what life throws at you, do it between us we have many experiences good/bad and there is always someone to offer help and support.

All the best to you.

Hi there Velonutter, perhaps the way to look at it is that life is also great sometimes and that brings a balance. Think of the good times you have had with Frank (the long walks, the chewed up shoes, the mess that made you laugh/cry, etc.).

I lost my father in law a while ago and deeply regret not spending more time out together on our bikes...but I am also really glad of the time that we did get to spend together. I now ride 2 of his old bikes so I get to say "hello" to him on a regular basis, particularly on days like yesterday when I got caught in a rainstorm that lasted 2 hours only to then be replaced by a hailstorm so harsh that it stung my legs (which had turned a blotchy purple by that point). My FIL was an old hand at cycling and when I started cycling he promised me that if I cycled regularly I would only get soaking wet 10 times a year. Well, all I can say is that cycling years must be blinking short as I usually have had my 10 by the end of March. When the thunder rang out yesterday across the Cotswolds, I am sure I heard the old bugger chuckling.

Chin up Velonutter.

I know it's difficult but you got to try and stay positive in these times. I hope your wife battles through and beats it.

We have always had pets in our house from even when I was a little child and it's difficult when you can see they are ill and there is nothing do to help, you're right in that they become a member of the family.

Good luck to you and although times are hard now I'm sure you'll be starting a new thread next year about how things have changed and how happy you are

Indeed it can be

Make the most of the time you have now with dear Frank, and cherish all the good times, the love and happiness you have shared with him. Remember that no one can ever take that away and Frank will always be a part of your lives.

We went through a really bad patch a few years ago
Lost my mum, then brother in law within 4 months of each other. Lost my son 4 months later, then father in law and sister in law in the same year. They were all taken before their time and it was truly a horrific time in our lives. Not to mention the numerous cats we have had and lost

I've got tears in my eyes as I'm typing this reply :!: We all deal with our losses in different ways, as we are all different, but I hope you learn how to carry on and cope. In some ways it has made me a stronger person. I no longer get worried or stressed out, by say, work pressures, as ultimately it is insignificant to what I have already been subjected to.

For me, the pain of the loss never goes away, but it has become easier to cope with as time passes, and I cherish the memories from all those who will always be a part of my life. No one can ever take that away from me.

I wish you and your family all the best during these difficult times.

It strikes me reading these forums how many of us have been affected by cancer in one way or another. My mother died of it when I was a baby so I never knew her. Although my father didn't die of cancer his body was riddled with it as was my maternal grandmother. In fact more members of my immediate family have died of or had cancer than not..

And Velonutter I know completely what you are going through with your dog. I have a 9 yr old german shepherd and yesterday he had to go to the vet to have a lump cut out (been sent away for testing). Bentley has no fear of anything, other dogs, cars, people, just happily chases his ball oblivious to all. Yesterday leaving him at the vets and seeing how frightened he was nearly broke my heart.

Luckily he generally has very good health but I'm aware of him getting older and slowing down and I'm dreading watching him slowly deteriorate over-time and not be the dog I remember with endless energy and zest for everything in his life.

This year we are going to Cornwall for our holiday, renting a dog-friendly cottage and I can't wait for long walks along the cliff paths and seeing him swimming in the sea again. I want to enjoy all these moments together while we can.

So enjoy the next few months as much as you can, remember he picks up on your feelings and if you are sad he will know that.

All the best m8 - we went through the same 3 and a half years ago with our dog - wish I'd died that day and not her.... she meant everything to me. She was over 14 years old and had had a great life, but, I never saw it coming.

Sitting here in the office with tears in my eyes. Dogs are as good as family members. I've had dogs all my life, currently have 2 Pugs and my puppy French Bulldog (I've always had GSDs before).

Dumbo was run over by my girlfriend just before Xmas (and my b'day). He's got a really bad habit of chasing cars up the driveway. He was coughing up blood, couldn't walk and had lost all his teeth.

I took him to the vets wrapped up in a towel on my lap, dropped him off inside and then had to run outside. I burst into tears (I won't cry in front of people, especially my good lady) and felt sick to my stomach.

He was x-rayed and fully examined. After all the trauma, he didn't even suffer from a single broken bone! The blood he was coughing up was from bruised lungs.

He's fine now but stays well clear on moving cars!




I pray that your wife fully recovers and your dog pulls through.

Dogs ARE special, I believe its called unconditional love.

Cancer is a bastard,dad died 3 weeks back. So many people affected by this. Really hope it works out for you.

Sometimes you have to find the joy in the little things.Stood under a tree in the park(walking the dog) while it rained, and there was a mist hanging over the river, I had a real glad to be alive moment.

Good luck

Sorry mate, sad news. Adore boxers and as a kid we had a couple of them and they are like stars..... Shine brightly, but burn out too quickly