Could get busted

hodge68

just ordered new wheels on line, not told the wife the cost(only £200). However she still would not understand so said £50 . I think ive covered my tracks on the order e mail, but im not around for a couple of days and could get busted when the dispatched e mail comes :oops: .Whats the worst could happen. :shock:

hulla the hulla

Honestly, I don't get the whole, lieing to the wife/husband/partner thing. Do you not have enough trust to be able to tell him, her ? If that's the case I'd be less worried about explaining the cost of the wheels and more worried about the state of your relationship !

jordan_217

slippery slope.........

ajb72

hulla the hulla wrote:

Honestly, I don't get the whole, lieing to the wife/husband/partner thing. Do you not have enough trust to be able to tell him, her ? If that's the case I'd be less worried about explaining the cost of the wheels and more worried about the state of your relationship !

Sometimes you have to pick your battles! I have a pair of Fulcrum Zero's in the garage that need explaining away! :oops:

gingermagician

MTFU

hodge68

Now i come to think about it, in for a penny in for a pound. Wish i'd ordered racing zero's. Thanks for the relationship concerns we are good, i know who wears the trousers in our house, now wheres did i put my dress :oops: and good luck with the garage stash .

craker

Everyone is in different relationships. I've come to the conclusion that if I can't justify said purchase to Mrs C then I can't justify it to myself. It brings one down to earth when she says, 'Yes, but what is the difference between a £50 wheelset and a £250 wheelset especially when it's going on the bike that seems to stay in the garage just to be polished?' You see I have the same dilemma and I'm working on it.

hodge68

it all adds up to a little naughtyness and saves a very long winded chat about the ins and outs of cycling.

hulla the hulla

In fairness, my pointed response was set to provoke. Mrs H does get the full and honest from me about purchases. She doesn't however get my passion for it, doesn't necessarily agree when I do but at least she can't have a go about me telling fibs.
The standard responses from me when she does have a moan are something along the lines of "well I don't complain about your [insert big number] handbag and shoe purchases!"...."my interest keeps me fit, gets me out of your hair for a few hours and compared to the alternative (she knows it would have been motor sport) costs next to nothing!" - we agree to disagree and then move on which I take as the moral victory!

MattC59

Schoolboy error !!!
Set up your own private email address, then the Mrs doesn't have to see the order / delivery confirmation emails !

I just don't tell the Mrs what I'm buying and she rarely notices. That said, she did ask me if I wanted one of those expensive bike computer, GPS thingies with the maps and stuff, for my birthday. I said, "what the Garmin Egde 800?", to which she replied, "yeah, that's the one". At that point I had to say, "you mean like this ?" and show her the one which I was quietly programming whilst watching the TV

Learn camouflage techniques as well. My old wheels were white with black tyres. My new carbon wheels are black, so I put white tyres on them and she hasn't noticed the difference. Well, that's what I think anyway !

To be honest, it's my money and the Mrs isn't overly bothered about me buying new kit, but it does side step those conversations where I'm trying to justify my spend. That said, she's not overly happy about me spending £1400 on an Enigma Ti frame, and has categorically banned me from coming back from the 'Bespoke Bristol' bike show clutching an order reciept

marjorie dawes

i don't know what my "tell" is, but the missus just knows when i'm buying something,

hulla the hulla

marjorie dawes wrote:

i don't know what my "tell" is, but the missus just knows when i'm buying something,

no doubt it's the look of stiffled excitement and eager anticipation on your face - try botox to restrict facial expressions

DavidJB

hulla the hulla wrote:

Honestly, I don't get the whole, lieing to the wife/husband/partner thing. Do you not have enough trust to be able to tell him, her ? If that's the case I'd be less worried about explaining the cost of the wheels and more worried about the state of your relationship !

Oh do shut up.

RDB66

Just tell her you Won um !!

desweller

RDB66 wrote:

Just tell her you Won um !!

'Yes dear, I DO seem to win a lot of competitions, don't I!'

Only works once. If you're lucky and the other half is off-guard. And very gullible.

robbo2011

When I was deciding which bike to go for, a mid range model or a full on pro tour level bike, my other half pushed me to spend the significant amount of extra cash on the tour level bike.

Her reasoning was that if I bought the mid range bike, in 12 months I would be lusting after a top end bike so I may as well get one now. Got to love her!

hodge68

I see where a little lie leads, it could all get very complicated. If the wife liked exspensive bags and shoes, it would be easier and if iknew how to set up my own account it would be easier(this is as tech as i get).I do have the answer though and that is, i shoulds stick to cash deals at my LBS. It may cost more, but they get trade, i dont get busted and i still get that naughty feeling. Time to plan for next years new bike.

hulla the hulla

DavidJB wrote:

hulla the hulla wrote:

Honestly, I don't get the whole, lieing to the wife/husband/partner thing. Do you not have enough trust to be able to tell him, her ? If that's the case I'd be less worried about explaining the cost of the wheels and more worried about the state of your relationship !

Oh do shut up.

love u 2 - hugs etc

essjaydee

Trick is to let her see you looking at top end kit that costs loads more than your spending

When you do explain your latest purchase she knows you have been sensible and if you can explain some discount too this will make it even better

Woman love a bargain, so very important to account for this in your purchases too

markmod

essjaydee wrote:

Trick is to let her see you looking at top end kit that costs loads more than your spending

When you do explain your latest purchase she knows you have been sensible and if you can explain some discount too this will make it even better

Woman love a bargain, so very important to account for this in your purchases too

Trouble is if you spend too much time looking at 'high end kit' creating the illusion you mention, before long you actually end up wanting high end kit!

tomhammersley

Having kids can have quite a bearing on this sort of thing, too.

Essentially, having kids means that me-time and me-money are in much reduced supply. It becomes important to try to balance it, so that both of you can satisfy your own needs and wants to avoid frustration or resentment.

In practice, what tends to happen is that both parties reason with themselves and become convinced that they're getting the raw end of the deal. It is often then easier to act unilaterally, and buy the thing you want, or take time out to do the thing you want, than attempt to justify or defend it to the other - who is no doubt feeling equally hard done by.

Really, couples should discuss these sort of things but of course couples place very different perceived value on things. Does a trip to the hairdressers for him/her equal a Sunday morning out on the bike for you? Does a boozy meal out with friends for him/her equal new kit for you? What if your partner has had the kids all week?

Often people find it easier to simply avoid that debate entirely and instead smuggle in otherwise-controversial purchases.

CarlosDSanchez

I use both bikes to commute to work and hence save the cost of a second car/insurance/tax/petrol etc, so the missus is pretty understanding when it comes to buying bike stuff. If she raises an eybrow I just have to remind her how much I've saved so far this year.

Too old for this

My missus is almost as much into cycling as me.......problem solved.

Wirral_paul

Too old for this wrote:

My missus is almost as much into cycling as me.......problem solved.

Until she borrows your new super-wheels........permanently